How Do Students Make Their Long-Distance Relationships Work?

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Erin Gardner | Lifestyle Staff Writer | eg245916@ohio.edu

Leaving for college can be tricky and even emotional. Saying goodbye to friends and family takes some practice and managing a different course load can be ambitious. If managing a long-distance relationship between cities or even states apart seems daunting, read on. Several Ohio University students shared some real-talk about what nightly FaceTime calls are like in a relationship.

Collin*, a freshman, shares that the 125-mile distance between him and his girlfriend is tough because he might not see her for a month. He shares that “it depends on the type of person, you have to accept what the person is doing and acknowledge that you want to be better people. It’s easier if you are already in a long-term relationship. For me, it’s been two years.”

His girlfriend is extremely supportive and he says that it’s important to not leave details out to keep the other one informed. It’s important to have the right head on your shoulders. Collin advises any other lovebirds going into a long-distance relationship to evaluate how serious the relationship is and how much it is valued. Is the video chat enough?

Cody Prell, a fellow freshman, is in a committed relationship with his boyfriend of 7 months and is separated by three and a half hours. His tips include staying in contact, discussing what works for the future and when to visit. “It feels like a death sentence or punishment to be in a long-distance relationship,” Prell confesses. “But you just have to work through that. Skype and FaceTime are your best friends, but I would say overall, long-distance relationships are definitely worth it”.

Grace Prexta, also a freshman, reaches out about her relationship with her boyfriend, who studies at Fordham University in New York City. Separated by a lengthy car trip or expensive plane ticket, the couple makes it work by and keeping each other updated on what is going on in each others’ lives. Prexta swears that “communication is key!”

Freshman Aleyna Dragonette and her boyfriend, Chris Suitor, a sophomore, share their experiences of a long-distance relationship between her senior year in high school and his freshman in college. Now, she is a freshman and he is a sophomore at OU. She says that she lived near Columbus and he was in Ashland, Ohio so it was about 86 miles and about an hour and a half drive. They give some tips as “Just knowing that the distance would one day be over kept us going. We always said that distance means so little when someone means so much. Also, we really valued our time together. Sometimes he would come visit me during the week and get there at 10pm and leave the next morning and drive home for school. It was rough but it taught us a lot about love and sacrifice”.

Dragonette admits that because he had a full-time job with his dad’s business, it made it rough on the couple to see each other. “He was usually busy working the weekends so I would come up and hang out while he worked. It wasn’t always super fun but getting to see each other made it worth it.” Dragonette advises “The whole first year of our relationship was long distance. We kept track of how many days we saw each other and for the first year we only saw each other 55 days during that time. He decided that he wanted to go to school for engineering so he changed his major and decided to transfer to OU. We love getting to be around each other more often and can’t wait to see what our time here at OU brings us.”

*Editor’s note: Collin asked that his last name not be used for privacy reasons.

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