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TV Dating Versus Real-Life Dating: 5 Lessons to Learn

Samantha Dawn | Freelance blogger
If you get all of your dating advice from reality shows, then chances are you’ll be ill prepared for the real dating world. It can be tough out there as made evident by FANGLE’s survey on several students’ worst dating experiences. The real picture is far from airbrushed couples in magazines and on TV, even if it’s touted as reality programming. FANGLE is here to clear the air with five lessons that years of The Bachelor, Love Island, Beauty and the Geek and all other romance-themed reality shows have taught us.

On love at first sight
If you haven’t caught on yet, several factors of reality TV are manipulated for a certain outcome. Including casting. Producers predetermine a pool of contestants where personalities and compatibilities are already known off screen. Contrary to what the screen says, falling in love at first sight is rare. Word of advice–don’t pass on the chance of getting to know someone just because they didn’t elicit special feelings upon first glance.

On physical appearances
It wasn’t much of a surprise when former Bachelor Sean Lowe divulged that contestants were asked to change their look for the show. Being a form of escapism, reality shows usually highlight beautiful people with enviable lives. However, this creates unrealistic expectations. Physical attraction may be important, but deciding to be in a relationship with someone shouldn’t be based on looks alone. Other traits such as intelligence, humor, and kindness may be more appealing in the long run.

On relationship ideals
Television has a way of setting standards that are impossible to reach especially when it comes to love and romance. This year’s winners of the british reality show Love Island are the perfect example of this. Ladbrokes reported that Dani Dyer and Jack Fincham were fan favorites and even walked away with the prize. It was a match made in reality TV heaven. Despite their palpable chemistry on air, Fincham admitted that their first time together did not exactly set off fireworks. Not everything about dating is as seen on TV. Not all dates revolve around a helicopter ride overlooking the mountains. Avoid disaster by keeping communication lines with your partner open especially when it comes to your needs.

On casual dating
Even though dating shows can put casual dating in a negative light, there’s really nothing shameful about it. It may even be healthy to keep options open. Arie Luyendyk Jr., of The Bachelor, took back his proposal to Becca Kufrin to instead propose to Lauren Burnham. That may have been brutal, but it’s better than forcing a marriage he didn’t want. It also speaks about the time frame of most dating shows— it’s hard to decide on marrying a person after only a few months! So by all means, date around. Safely of course.

On happy endings
At the risk of sounding cynical, a happily ever is fairy tales material, not exactly real life. It is everyone’s hope of meeting their forever person. But just look at Pop Sugar’s list of former contestants of The Bachelor if you want proof that happy endings are more fiction than fact. Many of the engagements fall off after a few months and only a few are made to last. (Sean Lowe and Catherine Giudici, are in fact one of the lucky few who have managed to make it stick.)

Before you put yourself out there, remember that not everything you see on screen will happen in real life. There’s nothing wrong about holding out hope as long as you can keep a realistic attitude about love.

Brazilian Waxes: A Walk-Through

Kailee Missler | Lifestyle Writer | km199116@ohio.edu

For those who don’t know, a Brazilian wax is a wax that takes off all the hair in your pubic and anal area. This sounds extremely scary, especially for people who have never experienced being open with their body around another human being. That’s not even including the pain they expect to come along with it.  This article will walk through the process of getting a Brazilian wax, what to expect, and is it worth it.

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Worst Dates Told by Ohio University Students

Miles Baker | Lifestyle Staff Writer | mb435816@ohio.edu

Dating. It’s a struggle. The number of people on the swipe-chatting app, Tinder, increases daily while everyone searches for that special someone. Tinder currently has “50 million users” according to DMR Business statistics. That’s “1.6 billion swipes daily,” meaning even in the modern hectic lives people live, there’s still time to find love. Others will seek out set ups from friends, or meet people naturally and decide to go on a date.

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3 DIY Galentine’s Day Gifts

Haylee Followell | Culture Section Editor | hf211816@ohio.edu

Galentine’s Day: Valentine’s Day cooler, lesser-known sister holiday. Galentine’s Day, made famous by Parks and Recreation’s Leslie Knope, is all about celebrating female love (and empowerment). Here are three cute DIY gifts for $10 and under that are perfect for your besties.

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How Do Students Make Their Long-Distance Relationships Work?

Erin Gardner | Lifestyle Staff Writer | eg245916@ohio.edu

Leaving for college can be tricky and even emotional. Saying goodbye to friends and family takes some practice and managing a different course load can be ambitious. If managing a long-distance relationship between cities or even states apart seems daunting, read on. Several Ohio University students shared some real-talk about what nightly FaceTime calls are like in a relationship.

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International Love: Popular Dating Apps Across the Globe

Lifestyle Section Editor| Sydney Dawes| sd983213@ohio.edu

For twenty-somethings such as junior Allie Sharrock, Tinder is the go-to for desires of the romantic nature.

“According to Carvaka, Tinder is not the most popular dating app worldwide. Image used with permission.”
According to Carvaka, Tinder is not the most popular dating app worldwide. Image used with permission.

“I think it’s very user-friendly, and I believe it’s the most commonly used dating app,” Sharrock said. “It’s useful because it gives me the opportunity to talk to and flirt with a plethora of people.”

Although Tinder remains popular among teens and young adults in the States, the youth of other nations gravitate toward other dating apps.

In a 2015 infographic provided by Carvaka, a UK-based sex toys company, regions such as South America, Western Europe, South Africa, Spain, and the Pacific islands tend to favor another dating app: Badoo.

Badoo was founded in London, England and boasts an impressive 334 million users, and counting. Badoo also owns or powers several other dating and social apps, such as Lulu and Blendr. According to Badoo, users send roughly 350 million messages collectively per day. On average, 400 thousand new users sign up for Badoo daily.

The college-aged tend to use dating apps or dating sites more than other demographics, and men use them more than women, according to Carvaka. Image used with permission.
The college-aged tend to use dating apps or dating sites more than other demographics, and men use them more than women, according to Carvaka. Image used with permission.

Badoo operates similarly to Tinder: you can match with someone to start a conversation (although you check “yes” or “no” for each profile you view instead of swiping right or left). Other features allow Badoo users to view and chat with people in their area, as well as search for people abroad. Although it’s free to sign up for Badoo, users can purchase access to certain features that allow them to contact people without “matching.” What makes Badoo a little different from other apps is that female users can add “secret comments” to guy’s profiles, alerting other women of negative qualities or giving a digital stamp of approval.

Carvaka reports that dating apps have increased in popularity among 18 to 24-year-olds, moving past online dating sites. However, this demographic uses dating services (whether mobile or online), more than any other age group.

Badoo and Tinder dominate the dating app game, but other apps maintain popularity in China and Russia, such as Momo and Frim, which operate like chat room/instant messaging services. Similarly, some European countries (where German tends to be the predominant language) favor the app Lovoo. This dating service allows users to view people in their area or match with people Tinder-style. Countries in Asia have a wide variety of smaller apps (that focus more on their geographic location) they use to find romantic partners or friends.

Carvaka’s research shows Tinder is downloaded more in the Northern hemisphere than it is in the Southern hemisphere. Image used with permission.
Carvaka’s research shows Tinder is downloaded more in the Northern hemisphere than it is in the Southern hemisphere. Image used with permission.

Dating apps such as these take away from the anxiety of getting to know a person romantically.

Sharrock would agree in regards to Tinder: “It makes it easier for me to meet people especially because I’m shy.”

Although these apps have various features, they all share desirable traits: the ability to chat with someone before meeting them, to meet people one may have never stumbled upon and to make rejection less severe.

Sex Toys: How Bobcats Are “Playing”

Society Section Editor | Korina Meister | km912013@ohio.edu

Don’t be nervous about adding a toy to the bedroom. You may have just unlocked the gateway to better, more passionate sex. Source: Christina Xu via Flickr
Don’t be nervous about adding a toy to the bedroom. You may have just unlocked the gateway to better, more passionate sex. Source: Christina Xu via Flickr

Cock rings, dildos, butt plugs, anal beads and so much more; sex toys bring a whole new level to your bedroom bliss. While toys may be considered somewhat of a taboo in college, there’s no shortage of conversations about sex. It’s only when the cock rings come out that the conversation takes a turn and people get more shy with their answers.

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Valentine’s Day Gag Gifts

Lifestyle Staff Writer | Alex Keller | ak537113@ohio.edu

Source: Icing
Source: Icing

Cue the pink and red palette onslaught. It’s that time again: when over-priced boxes of chocolate fill the shelves as far as the eye can see, and creepy pink and red heart-covered bears sing you songs that are supposed to give you the ‘warm fuzzies.’ But for all those who have trouble stomaching those ‘warm fuzzies,’ here are five alternative sweet treat Valentine’s ideas that may be a little easier to digest.

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Inside the Life of Engaged Bobcats

Love/Sex Writer | Kayla Blanton | kb408112@ohio.edu

Getting engaged in college may seem too early for some, but for others, age is but a number. Source: Tela Chhe via Flickr
Getting engaged in college may seem too early for some, but for others, age is but a number. Source: Tela Chhe via Flickr

When many students at Ohio University think about the relationship between male and female students, the first scene that may come to mind is hooking up after sharing a few shots at a Mill St. rager. What many people don’t realize is that there are some Bobcats out there in committed relationships, and some who have even gone as far as putting a ring on it before they graduate.

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